Laying your foundation

Life is all about choices, and making the wrong ones can lead you down some pretty rough paths. But is it fair to call any less than desirable choice “wrong”? Should we instead just describe it as a decision that takes us on a learning curve, where we listen patiently, nod our heads, and ultimately acknowledge, “Okay. Lesson learned — Won’t do that again.”

Perhaps.

You may find changing your mentality on how you view things enables the positive to come out sooner — Life is far more about mental perception than you realize; the psychology of it is a very interesting thing.

Remind yourself that you’re on an ever-changing journey, and though life will certainly tangle itself up rather well at times, it’ll always find a way to become untangled, and place you gently (and sometimes not-so-gently, but at least you’ll get there) back on-track.

Enjoying the Up’s and Down’s equally may not be the easiest thing for you to accomplish, but if you can reach a point of peacefulness that runs off that mentality, I can tell you the life you live will be much fuller than those who focus on the negative — Dreading having to overcome or do things is a choice you make; if you think of it as another stepping stone that we all ultimately take, maybe you won’t feel so lonely, confused, or frustrated during the process — It just becomes what you have to do.

Furthermore, remember everything is relative.

If you forget this important piece of the puzzle, you’ll find it difficult to see eye-to-eye with many people.

For instance:
Person A has $10,000 in debt. Person B has $2,000 in debt. If Person B hasn’t ever had more than that, their emotional response to their debt [even though it's 80% less than yours] will most-likely be equal. And don’t get me wrong, Person B will recognize they have it much better than you if you’re Person A, but it’ll still be a tough road for them to travel down because it’s the worst they’ve known.

Again, Relativity.

You have the power to lay the foundation for what your core will be, and choosing a negative platform to stand on won’t hold you up very long.